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Fashion Spotlight: 2017 BET Awards Red Carpet

Photo Credits: Maury Philips, Alberto Rodriguez (Getty Images) & Rex Shutterstock

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Fashion Corner: Imaan Hammam For Vogue Spain Cover July 2017

Photo Credit: Boo George

Stylist: Sara Fernandez Castro

Hair: David Harborrow

MUA: Florrie White

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Celebrating The Life of Michael Jackson 8 Years Later 6/25/2009

June 25th marks the 8th Anniversary the world lost one of the biggest influences & entertainer that has ever graced the stage. Michael Jackson meant so much to so many people around the world. He has blessed us with so much timeless hits from Thriller, Bad, Man In The Mirror, Billie Jean, Remember The Time, Dirty Diana, Give Into Me, Black Or White and much more. I remember getting the call from a former boss saying he passed away. My first response was like “Michael Jackson who???”. As a young girl growing up in the 80’s Michael was my first love in music. In the same fashion I had so many Michael Jackson items for instance: T-Shirts, Doll, View Master, Books, Albums, Posters everything. I remember watching Motown 25 with my mom when he first introduced the “Moonwalk”. Both myself & my mom was super excited to witness history in the making. Consequently I wasn’t too thrilled about that “Thriller” video, needless to say scared me to death. I took down all my posters after that. (laughs)

Michael commanded the status at an early age & captivated his audience up until his untimely death. Micheal will always be special to me my favorite Album will always be “Thriller” because that’s wear it all started for me. Moreover he was just a beautiful man, every one of us has something about ourselves that we are insecure of. No matter how many surgeries were performed I still thought he was amazing. As I’m writing this blog post currently listening to “Lady In My Life”. Words can’t describe how this song still moves me like I just heard for the first time as a little girl. It’s very unfortunate of all the anguish he endured during his career. The man gave so much of himself as well as his fortune to help children just people who were in need.

Michael Joseph Jackson will always be remembered as one of the greatest entertainers in the world. There will never be another one like him. Rest well MJJ!!

 

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Fashion Spotlight: Tracee Ellis Ross Cover Star For Redbook Magazine July/August Cover 2017

For more from Tracee, pick up the July/August issue of Redbook on newsstands June 27.

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Celebrating 5000 Followers!!!

The most exciting thing has manifested itself today. Before I get into the celebration of a yet another milestone and/or goal attained. I’ve been setting small challenges for the Instagram page. Thinking back to when the journey began, there were so many ideas going in my head so much so I had no real direction. The last memory of followers I had in the fall of 2016 was around 560 something. As a result I began to focus wholeheartedly on the vision for my brand. Later linked up with an awesome brand developer & the rest is history. Not mention my brand developer made me set 30/60/90 day goals that I wanted to reach. In the same fashion most of the goals I put in place for each set dates were accomplished early on. Generally speaking one of my few 90 days goals was to reach 5000 followers. June 19th, 2017 5000 followers became a reality.

Every thing I’ve set my mind and focus to has blessed me abundantly. Needless to say when you mind your own business and/or stay in the lane God has set out just for you, the impossible becomes possible. Consequently I’m more inspired/motivated more than ever before. I feel like I’m just getting started. Content is everything for my brand in order to be set apart from other bloggers whom may be in the same niche` of related topics. Moreover the next step is to get my website developed by August. As well as advertising more of myself in my fashion related posts via the social media sites.

Pending challenge currently is to learn the gist of YouTube. I haven’t posted a video in a good month or so which I find to be my greatest hurdle. Some of the content posted that’s has been posted thus far is ok but not what I feel like it could be. YouTube can be very intimidating I still only have like “35” subscribers” (laughing) not going to allow it to beat me. There is too much determination running through my veins to be defeated. So far this year has been moving along in all the right places. I haven’t been truly happy in some time now but I feel a restoration is happening. Reaping my harvest at this very moment. 

In addition, a little recognition wouldn’t hurt my brand either. In the long run I would like “Rockstarr Naturally” to be the next information highway for brands that are up & coming. Whether it’s fashion related, naturally made organic skincare and/or hair care. Equally important I would like “Rockstarr Naturally” to be a catalyst to introduce new bloggers to be featured as guest blogger set for once the website is launch. In the voice of Plies “Can you hear me now bihhh…..” stay tuned!!!!

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RIP Prodigy 1974-2017 Mobb Deep feat Lil Kim ~Quiet Storm~

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Happy Father’s Day feat Celebrity Dads w/ Their Children

 

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Cast of “Girls Trip” Looking Amazing On The Cover July Issue of Essence!!!

Photo Credit: Warwick Saint

Brief excerpt from cover story written by Danielle Kwateng-Clark:

The Will Packer-produced comedy stars Jada Pinkett Smith, Queen Latifah, Regina Hall and Tiffany Haddish as the group travels to New Orleans for ESSENCE Festival. And needless to say, with a cast like this, the girls have the time of their lives. From weed-laced edibles and nightclubs to swinging across Bourbon Street and making out with Kofi Siriboe, the ladies have so much fun that the audience will feel like they too are in the Big Easy.

“Because of our history in this country and how we’ve been labeled, I think we, as Black women, tend to be a little hard on ourselves,” Pinkett-Smith told ESSENCE about letting go and having fun in the July 2017 issue.

July 2017 issue of ESSENCE Magazine, on newsstands Friday, June 16, and head out and see Girls Trip on July 21. 

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Wednesday Music Flow: Lion Babe ~Hit the Ceiling~

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Fashion Spotlight: Vh1’s Daytime Divas Star Vanessa Williams Slaying Cover of XiOX Magazine June 2017

 

 

 

Photo Credit: Fidel Gonzalez

Set Manager: Joshua L Mcintyre

Retouching: Elena Pyzhikova

Using: Mola Softlight Modifiers

Interview: Erika Lee

Assistant: Kami Tafoya

Dress: Stello

Hair: Frank Galasso

MUA: Scott Barnes

Nails: Shirlee Ann Kerr

Fashion: Glam Vintage ( Michelle “Mitch” Phillips)

 Be sure to check out Vanessa Williams’ new show “Daytime Divas” on Vh1 Mondays at 10EST.

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Fashion Spotlight: 2017 CFDA Awards Red Carpet

PHOTO CREDIT: GETTY IMAGES

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Fashion Spotlight: Kontrol Magazine 8 of 8 Women In Music Special Edition

Photo Credits: Blair Devereaux @pbd Allen Cooley @allencooley Nathan Percy @npearcypics   Will Kennedy @imagesbykennedy

Stylists: Julian R Lark @julianlark

Assistant Stylists: Brandon Foster @thefosterkidd Blonde Hair’d Girl @blondehairdgirl Stylenutcase SHINGO @imsoshingo TrueStar @truestar247

Hair: Andrea Powe @msandreapowe Design Essentials @designessentials Brandy Wells @salonharajuku1 Leatha La’Slay @lecreations LaKenya Morris @sheis_lakenyamorris The Renegade Companies Jason Scott @hair_artbyj Danie @_danified

MUA’s: Jayson Glenn @jglenn_com Noorfaced @noorface REVEL by Julian Lark @revelbyjl Beauty Architect @beautyarchitect Mimi Johnson @mimijonline

Wardrobe: Haus of Falenci’ago @hofalenciago Trista Blake @tristanblakecollection Gucci @gucci Meow & Barks Boutique @meowandbarksboutique Cupcake Mafia T’s @cupcakemafia TheIvyShowroom @theivyshowroom Anne Fontaine @annefontaine

Creative Director: R K Jackson @therkj

Visit Kontrol Magazine’s website: http://www.kontrolmag.com/

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Melanin Crush Monday: Actress Jada Pinkett Smith

 

 

 

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Celebrity Birthdays May 24th! Happy Birthday Patti LaBelle & Heavy D(RIP)

Heavy D. would’ve turned “50” years old today!!!

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IT’S MY ANNIVERSARY!!!

So today is majorly a big deal celebrating 3 years blogging. Like every year this day always come as a surprise. In the same fashion, so happy with everything than I have accomplished thus far with my work. Some may not get it, some may feel like it’s not great which is alright by me. As the saying goes “Don’t diss the caterpillar then sweat the butterfly”. Looking forward to more ideas, developing my website this year, create more images of myself targeting my fashion/hair related features. Amazing things can happen once you set your mind free to create something that is completely unorthodox. God has created this lane strictly for me! Cheers!

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Fashion Spotlight: Lion Babe feat. Flaunt Magazine

Photo Credit: Guy Lowndes

Stylist: Rima Vaidilas

Styling Assistant: Asya Varesta

Hair: Larry Sims

MUA: Paul Blanch

To read more about the feature article visit website:

http://www.flaunt.com/content/music/lion-babe

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Celebrity Birthdays Gemini Season

Celebrity Birthday May 23rd: (Singers) Avery Sunshine, Johnny Gill, Leela James & Vivian Green (Model) Naomi Campbell

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New Music Monday: Goapele ~Dreamseeker~

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Afternoon Lovies,

Spring & Summer is that time of the year for naturals to adorn their hair with various “Protective Styles”. Of course the most popular go to styles are Braids & Twists. In addition, Faux Locs, Goddess Locs, Ghana Braids as well as Crochet Braids has made their presence known. All things considered you make maintain your hair/scalp while wearing these different forms of “Protective Styles”. Two weeks from now I will have my first “Protective Style” installed for the Spring/Summer months. Therefore I wanted to share some very helpful tips of caring for your hair while rocking your “Protective Style”:

  • Drink Plenty Of Water
  • Don’t Leave Your Protective Style In No Longer Than 4-6 Weeks
  • Avoid Tight Pulling That Comes From Wearing Constant Updo’s
  • Redo Your Edges
  • Wash Braids Once Every 2 Weeks
  • Moisturize Your Hair/Scalp
  • Protect Your Hair At Night W/Satin (Scarves, Bonnets or Pillowcases)

Above are my go-to products I use to keep my hair looking shiny & moisturized. African Royal  Braid Sheen Spray is my holy grail for the first couple days of a fresh “Protective Style”. The Tea Tree Oil inside helps soothe tightness & itching that consequently I experience within the first few days. Not to mention Jamaican Black Castor Oil is great for keeping my hair moisturizes and smelling great. You can find these products in your local beauty supply store as well as Sally Beauty Supply.

Two top natural hair brands Cantu & Taliah Waajid had extended their products by adding new hair care lines just for “Protective Style” maintenance. Cantu developed 3 new products: Apple Cider Vinegar Root Rinse, Root Relief & Dry Cowash packed with Tea Tree Oil & Peppermint Oil.

Taliah Waajid created “Protective Styles” infused with Bamboo, Basil, & Biotin to strengthen, condition & repair promoting healthy hair growth. Here is the list of the 7 products within this new line:

  • Hairline Help 2-in-1 Plus Bamboo & Biotin Edge Growth
  • Gro Hair Gro Bamboo Coconut Milk Oil
  • Healthy Hair Under There Bamboo Avocado & Peppermint Conditioning Restoring Serum
  • Intensive Moisture Bamboo & Coconut Milk Strengthening Leave-In Conditioner
  • Refresh So Clean Bamboo Avocado & Peppermint Dry Gel Shampoo
  • Thick & Full Bamboo Coconut Milk Moisturizing Mint Shampoo
  • Ditch The Itch Bamboo Basil Peppermint Anti-Itch Serum

As shown above are some of my helpful tips as well as product suggestions that will be beneficial for maintaining your hair while rocking “Protective Styles” during the Spring/Summer months to come.

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Tuesday Throwback Jam: “So Into You” Happy Birthday Tamia!!!

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Fashion Corner: 2017 MTV Movie Awards Red Carpet

PHOTO CREDITS: STEVE GRANITZ, KEVIN MAZUR (WIREIMAGE)

FRAZER HARRISON, MATT WINKELMEYER (GETTY IMAGE)

REX/SHUTTERSTOCK

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Fashion Spotlight: ~The DapperAfrika Experience~

Meek Roosevelt ~ Visionary, Fashion Curator, Director, Host, Singer, Songwriter “DapperAfrika”

To learn more about this iconic revolutionary fashion experience  follow on these social media sites:

Instagram: @dapperafrika

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DapperAfrika

Tumblr: http://dapperafrika.tumblr.com/

Twitter: @DapperAfrika

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Product Spotlight: ~Sweet T’s Beauty~ Must Have “Hair Elixir”

If you haven’t noticed by now I’m a huge fan & supporter of “Sweet T’s Beauty”. Ceo/Creator Toya Boxley-Bradley specializes in organic home-grown hair care products with a dash of “Black Girl Magic”! Today’s feature is one of the many products from “Sweet T’s Beauty” which is the Hair Elixir. This product is packed with a mixture of essential oils to keep your hair moisturized & soft.

Featured Photo: Ceo/Creator “Sweet T’s Beauty” Toya Boxley-Bradley

Today was my first wash day for the month of May & the day would not be complete without using at least 1 of the products from my go-to hair care brand which is “Sweet T’s Beauty”. Toya Boxley-Bradley puts in so much of herself in her produt. In the same fashion with this dedication is the main reason why her products sell out via many events across the City of Pittsburgh. Often imitated but never duplicated.

In every customized (Beauty Box) you will find the key elements that produce such rewarding results for everyday styling. Not to mention the best seller “Blueberry Hair Pudding” will give your hair definition for awesome braid and/or twist outs styles. Another phenomenal product is the “Hair Reconstructor” that is prefect for protein treatments as well as deep conditioning. 

The most important thing about the many product reviews that I’ve done thus far, I stand wholeheartedly by “Sweet T”s Beauty”. Why you ask, because I support all my female entrepreneurs whom are making their mark by creating authentic products for consumers to be proud of. Finally this brand have the stamp of approval from “Rockstarr Naturally”!!! Do yourself a favor order your own Beauty Box. Invest in your the magic that is “Sweet T”s Beauty.

For order placement visit website: www.sweettsbeauty.com

“Like” on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sweettsbeauty

Follow on Instagram: @sweettsbeauty

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Fashion Spotlight: Wrap It Wednesday

Photos courtesy of Pinterest

 

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Product Spotlight: Aunt Jackie’s Curls & Coils

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Fashion Spotlight: Recap Wearable Gala 2017 Red Carpet

PHOTO CREDIT: WIREIMAGE & GETTY IMAGES

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Remembering Lisa “Left Eye” Lopes

 

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Fashion Spotlight: Clickyoheels LLC

CEO EcoFashion Designer/Model/Natural Hair/Beauty Gabrielle Hatcher

Photo Credit: mcjxproductions LLC

Good Evening Lovies,

Today’s Fashion Spotlight is an up & coming clothing line by Gabrielle Hatcher called “Clickyoheels” LLC. I got to know this fashionista by the way of Instagram and became highly intrigued by her unique sense of fashion. Who says get rid of your old jeans, this young lady creates chic new designs made of different jean apparel. Gabrielle has custom made chokers, boots, skirts, vests & tops just to name a few. “Clickyoheels” LLC has very affordable trendy custom made designs that will suit your personality accordingly. I’m super excited to see what Gabrielle has in store for me!! Please visit “Clickyoheels” LLC are these following social media sites:

Instagram: @Clickyoheelsllc @clickyoheels

Snapchat: @Clickyoheels

For business inquiries email: Clickyoheelsllc@yahoo.com

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Melanin Crush Monday: Model Icon Naomi Campbell!!

 

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New Music Spotlight: Daley feat. Jill Scott ~Until The Pain Is Gone”

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Natural Hair Products Haul

I will be the first to admit that I’m sort of a “Hair Product Junkie”. In the same fashion, I’m looking forward to creating more product review videos on my YouTube channel. Previously I added a product review for the hair care line “The Mane Choice”. This product actually cut down my (Wash Day) in half. “The Mane Choice” is great for those of us whom experience long detangling process. I would like to try this brand’s new line which is their “Pink Lemonade & Coconut Super Antioxidant Texture Beautifer”. This line also comes with a styling Mousse & Curl Boosting Sherbet!

Another product I recently purchased was “Aunt Jackie’s Curls & Coils” line. I’ve heard so many good things about this brand. Very eager to see how this product works for my particular hair type. I have the “Knot On My Watch” detangling therapy & “Curl La La” defining curl custard. Nevertheless Aunt Jackie’s products are hard to come by in my area which may resort to ordering more products via the website.

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WCW: Model Gabi Fresh feat. (Gabi Fresh X Swimsuitsforall Collection) 2017

Photo Credit: Lydia Hudgens 

Visit Gabi Fresh website to shop & learn more about her new swimsuitsforall collection 2017:

http://gabifresh.com/2017/03/swimsuitsforall-collection-part-two-2017/

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Boss Chick Rasheeda Graces Cover Of Delux Magazine April 2017 Issue

The April Issue of Delux Magazine features Love & Hip-Hop star Rasheeda! Rasheeda give us the viewers a look at how she handles being an entrepreneur, mother, author & music mogul. Below is a brief excerpt from cover story written by Shadress Burks:

ON HER MUSIC & THE MUSIC BUSINESS….

 

Well of course another Rasheeda album is on the table. You know, music is that first boyfriend; it’s something that’s in your heart. One thing about me is I don’t forget what has gotten me where I am and me being Rasheeda the artist and doing my music. I’m so passionate and music has helped me grow into the woman I am and has also opened doors for me to do the things I’m doing now. I’m just a music lover period and it’s not going anywhere, sometimes you just spread your wings and move forward. In addition to my own music, I would like to help other females with their careers. I just went to the shooting of my stepdaughter Kelsy’s new music video and we have been helping her. She is signed to the label and she is young and 21 and is really trying to get her career off the ground and I love helping with that.

ON BEING AN ENTREPRENUER & RUNNING THE SHOW….

 

I’ve always been a hustler and before clothing stores, Kirk (my husband) and I owned studios in Atlanta and I used to do investment property. When we started the ImBossy.com website, it was something I always wanted to do and finally did. I had the online store 5-6 years prior to opening a physical store. When we made the move to open a physical store, my first fear was thinking we are in the mall and the mall is opened every day except Christmas and Easter, that’s a whole lot of responsibility. From 10 am to 9pm 6 days a week and 12-6 on Sundays. I was scared on that one, but honestly everything fell into place, but I was thinking are people going to be shopping every day??? Because you will have to make money every day. It sounds stupid but those were my thoughts.

To read more visit Delux Magazine’s website: http://deluxmag.com/delux-magazine-rasheeda/

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Fashion Spotlight: Celebrities & Coachella 2017

PHOTO CREDITS: JONATHAN LEIBON, GETTY IMAGES, REX/SHUTTERSTOCK

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New Product Review Featuring: The Mane Choice

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Fashion Spotlight: Elle’s Six Cover Stars Featuring Maria Borges & Jasmine Tookes

On the power of representation: “The fashion industry is here for everyone, [regardless] of color or race. When I was growing up, I never saw someone like me, and now the other girls can see someone like them. It’s all about inspiration.”

On her passion project: “My goal has always been to create my own beauty line. I have such a unique skin tone—when I go on set, makeup artists have to use all different mixes of makeup to match my skin. I’d love to do a line that has tones for everybody.”

Photo Credit: Terry Tsiolis

Stylist: Top by Calvin Klein Underwear. Earrings by Tiffany Blue Book Collection.

Dress by Philosophy di Lorenzo Serafini. Earrings by Maria Tash. Necklace by Cartier. Rings by Tiffany & Co.

May Issue available everywhere April 18th

To read more about Elle’s Six Cover Story visit website: http://www.elle.com/culture/celebrities/news/a44378/bella-hadid-hailey-baldwin-jasmine-tookes-elsa-hosk-candice-huffine-maria-borges-elle-may-2017-cover-reveal/

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Fashion Corner: Wrap It Wednesday feat. Fanm Djanm Headwraps

Photo Credit: Aarron Pegg & Fanm Djanm

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Fashion Spotlight: Harper’s Bazaar Arabia April 2017 Issue ~Gucci Story~

 

Photo Credit: Silja Magg

Stylist: Katie Trotter

MUA: Toni Malt

Hair: Seiji

Featured Models: Ajak Deng, Grace Mahary, Jourdana Phillips, Lameka Fox & Nykhor Paul

Brief Excerpt from cover story:

Together with Gucci we’re celebrating the beauty of diversity

 “The fashion industry has an ability to make the less visible, visible,” model Jourdana Phillips, one of five cover stars to front this issue, tells Bazaar. Alongside Lameka Fox, Grace Mahary, Ajak Deng and Nykhor Paul, Jourdana appears in April’s 22-page cover story in celebration of what has been described as fashion’s most diverse season, following the autumn/winter 2017 catwalk shows, which showcased a wider range of ethnicities, sizes, ages and gender profiles than ever before. 

The inspiration for the story is the sentiment of Gucci’s creative director Alessandro Michele, who told Bazaar after his A/W17 show, “If we are going to push the conversation forward then we have to look beyond simply talking about models on the runway, and focus instead on individuality and faces that show humanity.”

To read more visit website: http://www.harpersbazaararabia.com/fashion/editorials/meet-bazaars-april-cover-stars

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Fashion Finds: African Print Clothing 2017

Photos Courtesy of Pinterest

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“DevelopHer Brand” & “Rockstarr Naturally” Team Up To Support Small Businesses!

“Small Business Owners” we want to support you! Rockstarr Naturally is an affiliate with “Developher Brand” looking to support up & coming small black businesses. To say nothing of every small business owner wishes for the perfect opportunity to have someone discover information about their business as well as draw traffic to their brands. Given these points, currently we are running a 2 package deal!

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Exclusive Feature From Demetria J. ~Living My Truth: The Battle Of Low Self-Esteem~

The decision was made to speak on a topic that is very near and dear to my heart

“Low Self-Esteem”.

Sitting here in my bedroom with all the lights out and a candle burning, I felt compelled to discuss this topic that many have dealt with or dealing with currently. Many of us know what it’s like to be laughed at, mocked, teased, bullied and so forth. I myself have dealt with being mocked for having nice clothes, how my mother styled my hair, how smart I was, my mother wanted me to go to Catholic School instead of Public School. The simple fact that I was very good at dancing, I had many hidden talents. How my mom gave a damn about my appearance so much so she took me to a dentist so I can get braces on my teeth due to an injury I sustained when I was a toddler. Below I’m going to get real about my life experiences:

Once I hit puberty my clear skin began to change due to hormonal influences therefore I developed “Acne”. Which is genetic both my parents had “Acne”. My father was the only one out of my paternal grandmother’s children whom had it the worst. My father developed it from his mother. My mother was the only one out of my maternal grandmother’s children whom had it as well. Lastly out of the 3 children my father has I’m the only one whom had to deal with “Acne”. With everything that was going on within my body, starting my period at the age of 10 developing breasts, hips starting to widen, booty poking out naturally I went through a very tough time.

The incident that forever changed how I truly felt about myself occurred when I was about 12 years old. I was talking to a guy over the phone for a few months which during that time we considered ourselves dating. The time had arrived for us to meet each other. Needless to say I was so excited to finally meet him in person. So we decided to meet half way on this hill in my old neighborhood at a certain time so I was filled with excitement when I began to see him in the distance. Once we got face to face the expression on his face was the utter look of disgust when he looked at me. To add insult to injury he stated that he heard a then best friend was prettier than me. At that moment my self-esteem hit rock bottom. I’ve never been so humiliated in all of my life. I remember me running back down the hill to my home & never wanted to come outside ever again. During the course of my teenage years, I never felt like I was good enough. It didn’t matter how nice my clothes were, how my hair was done I just didn’t feel good about my appearance. I cried a lot people still talked about my skin asking me why do I have so many bumps on my face. Those girls over there only have like 1 or 2 bumps but you have them all over your face. Secondly when you factor in I wore braces until my 8th grade year of middle school. My breast weren’t as big as other girls so I got teased for that. My butt was big naturally and was teased for that. At the age of 14 my hips began to widen consequently I was teased for that. My mother was a Texas native so being around her all my life I naturally have a “Southern Twang” in my voice and yes was teased for sounding country.

My mother & I have been on every form of “Acne” treatments together. We’ve tried everything from Renitol as well as Accutane which was very harsh on the skin but it gave us awesome results. Even when my skin cleared up it seemed like it still wasn’t enough. I felt like no one was attracted it to me and the ones that I did date lasted briefly. It bothered me that once I broke up with someone they found someone else & stayed in relationships with them for longer periods of time. Which developed into the dysfunction of comparing myself to other people. I began to develop this mindset that oh he likes her because her stomach is flatter, or oh he’s more into her because she’s prettier, or she has lighter skin or, she’s taller, or she’s more sexually active than me or they knew I was a virgin and that’s all they wanted from me, the list is endless. I would stay single for long periods of time because when situations didn’t work out I thought it had everything to do with my appearance. My mother did the best she could by letting me know how pretty I was but I didn’t believe her. I believed that what they boy told me. Once you believe something it’s hard to re-train your brain to think otherwise about yourself. Fast forwarding to 2011 while on Facebook, I saw that the guy whom made me feel like I was the ugliest person he had ever seen commented on a mutual friend’s post. Until that moment I had been looking for him on Facebook because I wanted to give him a piece of my mind. Nevertheless I couldn’t find him because it wasn’t time. In brief, when I looked at his profile pic I said to myself it’s him & I sent him a lengthy message.

Basically I told him who I was, what he did to me has such a negative effect on me & my self-esteem. I told him how difficult it had been to be in relationships or wanting to be in relationship with someone whom accepted me for who I was a person not so much as my appearance. The last thing I told him was I hoped that he never has a daughter & someone make her feel the way her made me feel. All in all he did respond and knew exactly who I was by apologizing for how he treated me and how it made me feel. Ironically he forgot the person whose appearance he compared me too back then.

In God’s divine order he knew I needed that moment so that I can be able to release the rage, resentment, anger & pain from this incident. The weight that lifted off my heart and chest was very liberating. I cried so many tears because at the moment I was free. Forgiveness is not one of my best qualities because if you have wronged me for any reason or in any way I want to make your pay for it. Growth can make your forgive the worst person. And I did just that. He then asked for an opportunity to look at me again, that won’t be happening anytime soon. Don’t want relive the trauma of that 1st experience. Furthermore I had a much need conversation with my father. I explained to him everything that he never knew about me because of his absence for most of my childhood/teenage years. I explained to him that as a man with 3 daughters his job was to speak life into his children. I elaborated to my father that if he would’ve encouraged me by telling me how beautiful I was the effect on that one incident would’ve have made such an impact on my self-esteem.

Turning “40” in 2016 was transitioning rebirth. On the dawn of my “40th” birthday I felt a newfound beauty within myself. I became totally comfortable with who I was as a woman and as a person. It has been a task to look at myself in the mirror & love the person that I see. Once the blinders came off I was able to see me as I truly am. A smoking hot sexy ass woman. I’ve always been sexy that is one thing I did know about myself but now you can’t take me nothing. The reconstruction of my body is for me. Not doing all this work for no one but for self. Over time with the scaring on my face my pores have become enlarged & I still experience breakouts but I know how to deal with it now. Most importantly I will be trying organic/vegan natural products for my skin. I want to be the best me as I can be.

In conclusion, to whomever is reading this post I advise you to love everything about yourself. People are going to talk about you why not give them something to talk about. Also don’t ever allow anyone to compare your physical attributes to anyone else. Don’t ever compare yourself to anyone you see on social media, on TV, in Hollywood, the magazines, the blogs etc. Don’t allow social media to make you feel less than because in actuality what is seen on these sites isn’t real. People do the most for social media to be seen. Love your bodies, love your height, embrace your natural beauty including your skin tone, rock your natural hair etc. Always know that you are beautiful just the way you are God didn’t make any mistakes on you. You are supposed to look the way you are. Most importantly if a man tries to come at you in a disrespectful way by downplaying your appearance by saying you’re pretty for a big girl, or you’re pretty for a dark skin girl, or if you just relax your hair you would look so much better, if you work out you would be a dime piece, and so forth. Please don’t allow someone’s preference make you feel less than beautiful. Always know that there is a person out there that would love you just the way you are.  In the same fashion you must love yourself first!

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Celebrating All Milestones!!

Good Evening Lovies,

Currently on my late night vamp session for the 5th time this week. I wanted to share how important it is to celebrate all milestones no matter how big or small. Sunday night I was working on a new face to feature as my MCM (Man Crush Monday) only later to be notified I reached my 1000th post.

To receive that notification made me smile with joy. All things considered, the whole month of March by far has been simply amazing. In essence, everything regarding my brand is beginning to flourish. Goals are being attained for instance, I’ve been grinding since mid-September to grow my follower on my Instagram page. Instagram for the most part is definitely a pain in your side. Especially when you are providing original content that flows within the same niche` as other topics.

My content is very versatile as has been noted before, keeping your audience’s attention can be gruesome tiresome work. In the long run, I kept pushing to attain my first goal of 2000+ followers last week. All in all the hours that I put in, extensive research, conference calls with my brand developer and switching hashtags every other week paid off. Generally speaking my next target goal is 5000 followers. As a result I have various ideas ready for execution for instance product reviews via my YouTube channel. I have the best brand developer in the world. Not only does she believe in my brand, she also invested in my brand by purchasing my first webcam.

In addition, I’m working on my physical appearance so that I may be able to post content featuring myself on my Instagram page. Not only can fear hold you back if you let it, but also prevent you from living up to your highest potential. Not to mention the climate on Instagram can at times make you feel in the words of the group TLC “Unpretty”!! Time & age has allowed me to be finally become comfortable in my own skin. Knowing who you are is the most powerful aspect in life.  In fact stay tuned for my most intimate blog post ever. I believe sharing your experiences can encourage & motivate others through your testimony.

In summary, in pursuit of happiness whether it may be starting a business, becoming a writer, teaching a class and/seminar etc. celebrate all small victories along the way.

Demetria J.

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